Thought it would be done by now...

[25yearsmlc]

Yes, LS I meant legal separation. Every L I spoke with said the same. Why would you go to the effort to LS when you will D later they said.

There are reasons for some to get LS's, BUT if your state doesn't make it feasible, listen to the L. Especially if they ALL said that!

I also asked if I could file something for the support rather than filing for D. She said no. Hmmm. Maybe I will have to ask again.

If she's clear about your question, and you trust her, then listen to her.


He has made no effort to see kids and has said nothing about R.
I did take the kids on an adventure and he did find out. H was concerned who I went with and what we did. I said we had fun and the kids are good!

If he was an involved dad, then someday he may want to get back into their lives. That's most likely, especially after he meets with a L.

But I also know a dad who was what I'd describe as "very good, very involved" who left his family and never saw them again. Ever. It has been 30 years now. The more time that passed, the harder it got for him to face them.

But he is a rare bird. His oldest son got married a few years back and made the most beautiful toast to his mother. Everyone cried.

The L will also give him some reality therapy but he'll also give him advice about how to protect HIMSELF and

most men make a lot more financial plans for leaving than women do. I fear he is, or else why do what he did?


WE CANNOT KNOW the future.

But you do know what IS...and that's all any of us actually "know" anyhow.

Keep up the Detachment work, protect yourself and your family asap.

You'd be crazy not to.

Don't let him pretend this is about anything YOU have done.

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