OK, Hubby is in MLC...but do I have to PAY for it?

[Tina2111]

I am 44, H is 50. We have ONLY been married 4 years, 2nd for both. I had a baby at the end of our first year (we didn't waste time, biological clock thing), and he quit his job because it required too much travel. He was not able to find another one and stopped looking. For 3 years he hasn't helped around the house, hasn't worked, and hasn't done a fraction of the home repairs that need to be done. I work full time, we have 3 children at home (5 until recently) and have a sitter to help with the baby. Over the past year he has gone into full-blown MLC mode.

My husband has a nice BMW I bought him used, plus a new Shelby GT John Voight (sp) Racing Edition I bought him a couple of years ago. He took up bowling 3 nights a week about a year ago. Which turned into staying out until 3 am on bowling nights. Which turned into staying out 5-7 nights a week, mostly in clubs. Which turned into frequently sleeping over at a female "friends" house. Two of them actually. He says they are just friends and there is no sex. The women are in their 50's.

He gets $200 a week free spending money. He has NO bills, I pay them all.

I know if I am going to support him through his MLC, I can't make demands on how he spends his time. But is it realistic that I have to keep giving him money to run around on me? I want to get through to the other side, but I feel really, really exploited.

Help!