It has been over 3 weeks now since I fould my H's letter to OW etc and I am feeling so confused.
He's the one who's had an EA/PA but is declaring overwhelming love for me and wants us to stay together - I am the one deciding if I want to try or leave/throw him out - does that make me the WAS????? I don't know what I should be doing or should he be doing it all . . .
Other than showing him an overall spirit of compassion, grace and FORGIVENESS, he should be doing all of the heavy relationship lifting right now. YOU display the attitude; let HIM do the actual WORK.
This will change, if he demonstrates to you that he's serious, and you guys get some good counseling -- preferably from a MC/FT who specializes in infidelity. It will be truly "50/50" at that point, and you will have a LOT you will have to do.
I just don't think you're there yet, and if you let him back in too easily, you'll be making a huge mistake, IMHO.
It has been over 3 weeks now since I fould my H's letter to OW etc and I am feeling so confused.
