25 I am pretty stuck on 180's right now. It's pretty frustrating. Here are some I have considered:
1. Doing the [edited by dbmod: reference not recommended nor allowed] "no sex challenge". Let W know that I am trying to learn self control, and that I intend to go a month without sex.
2. She daily asks me if she looks fat, she never hears what she wants to hear. That is because all possible answers affect some insecurity of hers. I will no longer provide an answer. She needs to discover her own self worth.
3. No more R talk. I was already here, but we had a month of so of stability where I decided we could work on things. Clearly she cant handle verbal conflict.
4. Seek less and less validation from her, speak my mind often. If she disagrees respectfully tell her my opinion is different. (working on breaking that emotional fusion).
5. Seek a local guitar teacher.
6. Play more cards, the local scene here plays on the weekends in the evening I love the game but the weekends are for going out. Need to figure this one out.
7. Encourage W to be more independent ever since we got here all her so called independence plans went away, and since she refuses to drive on the other side relies on me for everything. I find it odd considering how much independence she wanted. I still need to figure out how I'm going to do that.
8. Encourage her to make friends. This one is hard, since the whole jealousy thing kicks in. Nonetheless I have made some positive strides.
9. Get my own friends. A little hard to do considering the many complex rank structures, and I tend to think that most of the stuff my peers for fun is not that fun.
Any other suggestions?
2,3,4*,5,6,8. YES.
The others . . . NO.
*here, fixed it for you:
4. Seek less and less no validation from her, speak my mind often. If she disagrees respectfully tell her my opinion is different. (working on breaking that emotional fusion).
