Please keep rereading 25's posts to you. She is very wise and absolutely spot on with this. You never have to feel guilty or worry that you've pushed your H away or apologize by going after what you need to take care of your children.
MLCers are very self centered. They feel they've done their giving and now it's their turn. Many of them turn and run from the responsibility of the family they helped to create and feel entitled to do so. With this mentality many MLCers have wiped out the financial security they've built up and also run up debt that the unaware LBS can also be responsible for.
The reality is that the family doesn't stop existing just because they wish it so. Protect your kids and yourself with out worrying about how your H will react. Your responsibility is to protect your children and yourself. Your H's choices have made it necessary to do what you're doing.
