there are many "suicide survivor" groups out there too. Probably one with a child's section. FIND ONE please. I KNOW there are books out there too.
Our neighbor's father took his life on Thanksgiving, 3 y/ago, after wife#3 left him (he was hard to live with & sank into a deep depression after she left,
kind of draining those around him and in some ways,
neighbor was very angry at his father, and in some ways saddened and hurt and in some ways, relieved...)
So neighbor and his children went to a group to figure out "why grandpa didn't want to stick around" and
neighbor told his kids, "too bad for grandpa, b/c grandpa wasn't well enough to see all the reasons I see to stick around--like for YOU GUYS - you rock my world", etc.
The kids will need to know YOU will always always be there for them. Always, no matter what. You are their rock and they will someday, be each other's rock.
THis is the time to show & tell them.
I ache for you. My h and family prayed for you tonight.
I hope your w's family is alright, and not making things worse. My guess is there will be blame and guilt, (the blaming probably will come from their guilt, or fears of their own inner darkness)
Just remember, they lack the tools you have. The very tools you'll pass on to your sons...and if you need to, try to forgive them, too.
They are in their own pain.
My family & I prayed for you and yours tonight.
Like so many, I am sending you all that I can send this way --hugs, prayers and positive light and love for a man whom I admire, like very much, and have never actually met. (And a man who makes me want to ride a motorcycle again!)
God Bless You & Yours.
((( )))
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
