I'm so very sorry. I can't imagine your pain right now. I can't imagine the pain your W must have been in. You didn't cause this, and I echo all of the sentiments by your fellow DBers. Taking space didn't cause this -- that is part of the normal ebb and flow of relationships. You have done your best to be there for her.
I'm so sorry you are left to pick up these pieces alone, to heal yourself and your children. You have a good heart, and you have built some skills, and you are the right person in the right place to take care of your children.
We care about you and we are still here to help you move forward to take care of yourself and your children.
