Lila,

Reframing the idea of W using me - not a bad idea!

The move - it will be something when I don't have a bed to sleep on!! cool It's "her" bed. I don't want to 'die on that hill' as far as I'm concerned. I'll get a new one when I move.

As far as not trusting her -- this stems from the fact that she has been so deceitful all year. I know that she says many things about feeling guilty and wanting to be a better person. But there is a part of me that feels like this may all be lip service to facilitate getting what she wants and being divorced ASAP. I don't know. I'm not going to say "I don't trust you" because that is just going to force the issue.

The fact is, she moved out months ago, isn't on the lease.. so anything that happens to the place is on me. I'll feel better about it if I'm there to keep an eye on things.


M: 32
W: 29
T: 9 Years
M: 4 Years
I hit rock bottom: 2/11
PA admitted: 4/11
WAW: 5/11
D filed: 6/11
now: Patience, wisdom, and growth - hopefully.