Loving, Listening, and Letting Go..

[aeolianchaos]

This is a very "Intellectual" thread.

I've been told I over intellectualize things on more than one occasion.

I appreciate a lot of what you said here, in terms of not basing myself off of other peoples response and reactions to me.

Being true to one's self = well, this is a moving target in many ways, isn't it? I tend to find that just when I think I've found my 'solid ground' is when the earth shifts a little bit this way or that way.

If you continually worry and change to suit someone other than yourself, then you forget yourself.

I think there is a balance here. I'm going to post something in a little bit on it, but it touches on the idea that part of being solid is being flexible, and being able to choose things that might involve sacrificing in the short term.

Aeo, you have done a lot of work, but instead of focusing so much on the outcome. Detach from it. KNOW you will be okay without her because of your journey. IF she wants to be with you, she will do everything possible to be and if she doesn't others will.

You are right. I am very focused on the outcome lately. I know the ultimate outcome is that I want to grow up and get more in touch with who I am and who I want to be. I think that there is something really good in there.