Thanks, sadbuthappy. I see where that could be taken the wrong way.
Johnnie, as I've told you before (and anyone who knows me on this board can tell you)I do not ever tell a LBH that he should stay with a WAW who is cheating. Please don't mistake what I meant by that quote. Of course it matters to you if she continues her A, but my point is that whether she is or not.......her mind is made up to leave. If no affair, then what will you tell her?
When you ask her if she's still in an A, I think you need to expect either way. She may not give you the answer, b/c she's knows that if she tells you the A is over.....she won't be able to get you off her back to R.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
