I would like to see you become a little more indifferent to your W and focus on you, but I also understand where you are. You have kids and co-parenting seems tough(I don't have that issue)
I will say that your W will continue to test you until all your kids are 18. She will constantly see where you are at even WAY before this. I know, when you are truly ready to stop watching or thinking of what SHE is thinking though, there could be a major breakthrough.
Until you really get a LIFE FOR YOURSELF without watching, she will continue to have you kind of wrapped. I'm not saying this to be rude, just making an observation.
Keep doing what works, but don't be fearful of changing it up a little. Become mysterious. Make her wonder what's up with you.
