I know I'm in a different time zone so everyone is probably in bed.
Here's what I plan to say
W you know I love you more than anything in the world, but lately our fights have gotten more violent, and more destructive. I will not tolerate this. I really want for us to be happy but this is not the way to do it. Many things will have to change if this is going to work.
Honestly I think this is about as far as I'm going to get before she explodes. Any comments, ideas, suggestions, 2x4's ?