Read your post digested. Then tried to do the hugging till relaxed exercise. It went as expected, she was very awkward the whole time but then seemed to calm down, for my benefit I think. I took a couple of minutes to discuss to her how she felt, and what this could possibly mean.
It was going well until I said we would try again tomorrow. She then told me that she didn't believe in it and even if she had unresolved issues it would be better if we just left it alone. I told her it was these issues that were making things so hard, and she said it was no problem she liked things the way they were.
I was partially shocked by her statement but not surprised since it is harder to overcome your troubles than to just live with the misery. I told her I was very disappointed with the fact she didn't even want to try. She then did a 180 lost her temper and started saying she was leaving tomorrow. She got on the rollercoaster again, said she was leaving, and locked herself in the master bedroom.
Trying to follow your advise and that of country strong and starky. Trying to stay calm while she stews in the bedroom. (I think she is destroying my copy of PM). When she gets out I will be strong and tell her that enough is enough. That I love her, but will no longer tolerate her destroying things. If she does not care to work on us then she can move on.
I'm not going to lie, I'm scared. Yet I AM tired of living like this.
