Aeoli - you sounds like me with the job and financial indepdence stuff. I think it's the necessary path. Do something - perhaps - temporary - rather than finding the right perfect career for you right now ...
It sounds like some of what WAW is harping on. Though, I don't know if it's really about that. For her.
But it'll be good for you.
I'm telling you this, but in a lot of your posts it sounds like you blame her for the position you're in with work - or that you are in some way very tied to her around this stuff. I could be wrong, but I think that is something that can ... help.
And from my vantage point, I look at your age, the fact that you have no kids, how in tune and in touch and smart you are, and I think - here's a guy that will have no problem finding a deep connection and love.
But those fears - yeah. No good.
But I don't have those fears for you - so I see something - good. With WAW or someone else.