Thank you Chances. No, I know he is not anyone I have ever known or loved. He is, in my opinion, jealous and spiteful. His ego has always been a problem, but not he has to take the blow that Yes, I can go on without him and live a happy life. How can that be??

Many of us find that, after divorce, while perhaps not hanging in for the marriage that once was, we still hang in there for the person we know our XH's to be. I continue to do that, and pray for the day he accepts help and becomes everything I know him to be inside.

ME: 54
Him: 51
M: 20 years T: 21 years
OW/New wife: 36
Sons & Daughters: 7 (ages 24-36)
Bomb: March 4, 2010
He Filed: April 28, 2010
I Contested: May 1, 2010
Standing Down: 11/24/10
Divorced : 05/04/2011