Can my relationship be saved, part 2

[a girl]

DG - You're not kidding. At least he's still somewhat thinking about S7, although he keeps wanting to rush things. That's fine - my L says I'm in a good position, particularly due to the state I live in, so I don't have to compromise on anything regarding S7.

As for his affair, that's not my concern - I imagine, given the distance and her recent comments to her husband, it will end. If not, so what - I'm GAL. If there's a point where he's not in an affair, we'll see what sort of relationship we have. Until then, it's all about me and my little guy.

[a girl]

Well. S7, who had been handling things so well, had a meltdown tonight. I'm not surprised - I was expecting it. I think H wasn't. He cried for an entire hour, until I worried he was going to throw up.

The expected stuff - he wants us to be back together, he wants things to be normal, etc. He asked to call H, so I let him - they talked for about 5 minutes until S7 just put the phone down and sobbed, and then said to him "Can I hang up now?"

He's finally fallen asleep.

What kind of selfish piece of useless space could sit and do that to his own son? Abandon him for a woman?

It's disgusting.

[a girl]

S7 was upset this morning, though not nearly as much. Asked to stay home, but my schedule didn't allow it. Called H, asked him to keep S7 and work from home today. He agreed, and picked him up soon after.

So angry at H right now.

[~¤DG¤~]

(((Hugs))) I hate what it does to the kids.
I am glad that your son showed some sort of emotion in regards to it, instead of keeping things bottled up inside.

[jbnati]

(((Hugs))) I hate what it does to the kids.

Me too! I won't forget the night my S fell asleep crying in my arms. I am just afraid he is holding too much in now.

[a girl]

Thanks, guys. It's his first sleepover at H's house tonight, so we'll see how that goes.

I've been continuing to talk with OWH, although not about their relationship - we've decided that's off-limits, but we are talking about ways to help the kids cope (their oldest D is near my S7 age), and I've recommended some books.

It just makes me so mad that people care so little for their children - so much for their own egos.

[a girl]

Had a great evening last night - went out with several friends for happy hour and nibbles, then we headed over to see the new movie "The Change-Up". Totally mind-candy, but I enjoyed it.

Came home and chatted with a friend online for a bit and then headed to bed - was asleep within 15 minutes, which was nice. Slept until 8:30 when my alarm went off. Why did I have my alarm set? I have no idea.

S7 is with H today - stayed the night last night and will be with him until after dinner tonight. H called to say S7 asked to come home earlier, and what were my thoughts?

I asked H what he had planned for S7 today, and he told me, so I talked with S7 on the phone about those things, and I think S7 is going to stay and have his day with H.

Not that I don't want S7 to come home, but I think it's important that he start to get used to how things currently are, and I think it's important that he be able to soothe himself with a phone call to me.

He was apparently fine last night, too.

I told H to just call me on my cell if S7 gets really insistent about coming home, and also asked him to text me with a couple times to let me know how he's doing.

I didn't like to ask him to text me, but I preferred it to having to text him and ask - felt more like I was putting the responsibility on him to keep me updated.

[a girl]

H says S7 is doing well, so that's nice. Sent me several texts but I guess they didn't send, because they all came in at once and I got about 10 texts from him. Weird.

Did some shopping - bought a pair of fall boots and a bracelet, then got some groceries/staples, and had a pedicure.

Stopped by my favourite vegan place and tried their "special" spring roll - ick. Will stick with the tried and true one from now on.

Did my toning workout - crunches, pushups, squats. Trying to talk myself into spending an hour on the treadmill. Not working so far.

Feeling mostly good today - only a couple spates of "down". But H will be here for what he says is "about 30 minutes" but I expect will be closer to an hour packing up some more stuff. He has movers coming Monday morning, so that will be good - be nice to have all his stuff gone so I can be done with the endless Saturday afternoons of having to see him.

[Julz]

I wish my H would just get his stuff and go. He only moved into his own place a fortnight ago and he gave me a list of things he wanted to take - he didn't take many of them at all. Was supposed to grab more yesterday when he got the kids but he didn't.

[a girl]

H finished up the kitchen stuff tonight. He wanted to divide the china cabinet - nothing in there is useful, it's all decorative, so I'm not sure if he just wants to get done, or wanted to hang out a bit longer - either way, I just said, 'Hm, let's leave that for another time.'

He has movers coming Monday, which will be nice to have done, and then we just have to divide up books and our wine/liquor collection - I told him we could do that next Saturday when he drops S7 off.

I'm trying to keep him to a "30 minutes or so on Saturday" timeframe for getting things, as I'm not interested in him asking to come over at random times during the week.