Seeinganswers has made an excellent point you must take in. Stop pressuring your wife to follow through on her threats.
What's the point of that? Seriously, what was your goal? If you want her to "get off the pot" then be prepared for papers served. But see my timeline below for what it took in my h's MLC to get through this.
Also, You've not yet been in your situation for a year and you're already dating? Really? Wow...that seems fast for a man with 3 kids who loves his wife and goes to church, etc. If it was a date with OW, it's unfair to her, b/c you are clearly not available emotionally. Food for thought. I do understand the need for companionship, trust me, I do. Her comment about you dating was interesting. I'd back off and say nothing to her again about it. If she asks, don't reply. It's none of her business but if she presses you without anger, you can say "I want us to be a family again. Since you left Me, I don't think you're in a position to judge what I do" and leave it at that. Don't engage.
As far as her comments regarding your faith, what is that about? Are you preaching to her?
Look, I cannot tell you what will "make" your wife feel loving and committed again. None of us can. But we have a lot of experience in what turns OFF the Walk Away Spouse and preaching, condemning and trying to guilt them, backfires every time.
The more you challenge her choices, the more she'll defend them, (instead of doing what YOU want, which is to examine them.) Stop your parental voice and let the internal voice in her head speak to her about her choices. Don't outshout that other voice... Back off big time. Be a great father. No mother is unmoved by the loving interaction of her children with their dad. It's a turn on at a deep level. Don't look for results, leave those up to God.
Be a man only a fool would leave. And again, leave the results up to God.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
