Just had a talk about differentiation with W. She is still hesitant to receive any outside help whether a book or counselor, and just wants time to "figure it out". She was willing though to talk to me a little about schanarchs work. As I described the framework behind emotional fusion she was literally finishing my sentences as if to say: that's right, I felt that way all along.
Explained we needed to differentiate, but that it didn't mean that we would drift apart. She seemed to have taken it real well. We even laughed and played. I really wanted her to understand that we may not always see eye to eye and that's ok.
We also lightly discussed how she may be having a hard time giving herself to me, because she is afraid of further fusion. She seemed to at least nod in understanding of what I said.
I cut it at that, since these talks often lead to fights and I wanted to finish on a high note.
