Oh I know I shouldn't have asked S why they were late and I apologized to him. Like I said above, I am still working on some of the anger. I do ask S what he did because i like to know how his day was. I ask him what he did with daddy like i would what did you do at school. I ask him how he felt or what happened for more details, but not more than I do when he gets home from school and I ask what toys did you play with today, did you go outside, who did you play with, etc. It is still a fine line between asking too much and asking to let S know I love him and want to know about his life no matter who he is with, which I am still working on, but I follow his cues and ask follow-up questions as he is interested in telling me.
He did tell me about OW getting mad and leaving then XH dropping him off with his parents for a while. He told me this out of the blue on Tuesday when i said I was getting angry about things being messed up with something (can't remember what now). I left that one alone and just listened to him.
It is all still a learning process since S is more talkative now than ever, but I will continue to learn and grow.
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