My feelings are changing...sitch isn't

[AJM]

Ah yes. The "I'm right, you're wrong and I know it" mentality. Brings back memories

Tad, one thing you said that really struck me. You had a flood of memories. Happy and sad at the same time. Know what that is? That's progress for you, my friend. When you can look back at the happy times and KNOW they were happy, you will have made much progress. I think you have already. I'm proud of you

You are doing very well with the kids too Tad. They need their dad, and you are doing great!

The other thing that really stands out is that she is missing out. You are NOT missing out. She is. That's a good thing Tad. It's great really because it means you are shifting your viewpoint and I'm very happy to hear that. You are not pulling away or leaving her, but you are seeing things differently and that is very important.

Quick note: The anger? Yep, it's really something isn't it? I remember thinking it was both scary and fascinating at the same time. Like a thunderstorm. Kind of a beautiful thing in some ways. If it wasn't directed at you it would be much more interesting than scary if you ask me. Doesn't make it right though, and part of setting boundaries (one of you has to) is ensuring that she is under no circumstances allowed to choose to treat you poorly.

Perspective is important Tad.

AJ