Ha, I know what you mean about being able to survive without S but not wanting to. I may be young, but I knew for a long time before marrying my W that I wanted to be with her until old age. I also knew that we would go through our share of the tough stuff, so I'm hoping that this will just prove to be another chapter in our saga. I don't want to give up on us this early. To answer your question, I'm about 5 weeks in. I'm sure we've both got a while to go before before either S "comes down," so we might as well work hard on treating ourselves right. We're good people, y'know?