Hey IB, I know, that kind of thing seems to happen at doctor's offices, though in my case, my XH never changes the stuff and I end up having to be the one to explain no, do NOT use him as my contact person, and NO, I am responsible for my own insurance.
Just remember the years were NOT erased. They existed, and for those of the years that you were happy, they were important and necessary for your growth as a person. You had good times then; they are not erased. They can't be. Think of it this way, what is "erased" is only what you assumed would happen in your future in terms of plans or dreams with your XH. Well, the future is always up in the air and questionable. You still have a wonderful future in store, with him if things change, without him if they don't, on your own possibly, or with someone else. That's a lot of potential for happiness.
HUGS to you :-)
M45 Bomb 6/09; EA 6/10; Divorced 1/11 Proud single mom of 7 little feline girls and one little feline boy "Fall down 53 times. Get up 54." -- Zen saying
