Praying for strength

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But....why hasn't he filed if he's done?

I have been following your situation since pretty close to day 1. I am under the impression your H has an enormous amount of junk, a lot of baggage. There's probably some of this you don't even know about.

I don't think he's done, even if he is with OW. Even if you're relagated to being plan B, at least right NOW.

Applaud yourself for what you've done. Your H is taking the hard road. He is trying to do it all yourself. You have taken great steps to resolve your issues. You are seeing a IC. You are on this message board. You are working on yourself.

IMO your H could use some help on his journey, but he has to come to that realization independently.

Just my VHO.

I don't know if I agree with you jb, about him not being done. His actions have not shown me at all that he cares about me or my kids. He's pretty much left us in the dust. Now that he has this "friend" that's he with, it's probably easier for him to pretend we don't exist at all.

The thing is, even as recent as a month ago I was blaming myself for all sorts of wrong doings and thinking I should have done this or I should have done that. I finally realized through the help of my IC that there is no "should" in life, there is no manual of what we should do.

I've finally left the past behind me. I don't think anyone can possibly understand how freeing this feels. I was holding on to things that happened years past. 5,10, even as much as 15 years back. A lot of it related to how I was raised and the bitter divorce from my 1st H, all gone.
I've figured what's the point of holding on to so much baggage?

I am proud of myself for my changes and I can understand why so many of the vets here meant when they said do it for you and not your M.

I think I am coming to terms that my M is over.
I'm not saying I am completely there, but I'm close.
If H wants to D, then he can get the ball rolling.
For now, I'm just going to be.