epiphany - a sudden, intuitive perception of or insight into the reality or essential meaning of something, usually initiated by some simple, homely, or commonplace occurrence or experience.
One of my favorite words. Not just the meaning but the way it flows, much like: cellar door.
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But I think I at least showed her I took her concerns seriously and acted on them. Because I do love her and want the best for our M.
I think you showed her as well. I think you showed her that despite your fear and worry, and despite that you disagree, what she thought and what she felt was more important than those things.
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My only issue is the kids. My oldest son has grown super attached to me. I worry about the effect on him and we will do everything in our power to minimize it, but you can't do everything. I suspect he will probably stay over a lot.
"We can handle anything ourselves...as long as it doesn't affect the kids."
I still believe this. Like the kids become the rally cry for injustice done. I am a father too, so I found myself falling into this trap. I could handle anything she did to me, but how dare she do this to my children!
ahem...
Well, they were my pressure valve. My little lie to myself, when things got really bad, I could hoist the kids flag and start slitting throats.
Harrier, while you do not think the seperation is a good thing and that is where your thoughts will follow...what if it is a good thing for your marriage?
What if this is what needs to happen for a fulfilling marriage where your children get to see a healthy marriage rebuilt?
what if...
what if...
We both are playing this game...
in opposite directions. : )
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
