Feeling alone and frustrated with a 180.

[dearme]

Right now, things are really bumpy! One day W does something that encourages me, then the next day things look cold and dismal again.

I know the feeling buddy. One minute my wife will say something that would seem to only have meaning/relevance if she's planning on sticking around, and the next minute she's saying something that would seem to indicate she's still planning on leaving.

I just try to remind myself that the ambiguity is, in a way, a good thing... that is, it's a whole lot better to be uncertain about what she's thinking and planning on doing than it is to know, in no uncertain terms, that she's still firm in her decision to leave and divorce.

Just keep DB'ing, 180'ing, and GAL'ing, and that way you'll know, no matter what happens, that you did the right things...that you did everything within your power to save your marriage.