GB...thanks. I'm hoping that it is just another phase of piecing. Sometimes it's hard to fight off the feeling that she's not "becoming more accustomed" to me.
Denver...your comment made me think...I don't even know if my Whas ever considered that her "in love" feelings could come back...in fact, part of her seems to be actively fighting that.
Navy - I told my W just night before last that I think that she is actively fighting the possibility of allowing herself to fall back 'in love' with me. I have no idea why she is doing it, but I really don't think that she is giving it a chance to happen. Maybe subconscious selfish thing going on. I don't know.
Denver--I'd think fear is more likely.
Navy, at least your w said she's "Still not in that place yet" as in, as I read that,
she could be in the future.
It's a form of pressure to ask, but not unreasonable to want to know,
if she's actively fighting it. B/C if she is, it won't happen. I don't know what she fears from you Navy b/c you were NOT abusive and you are paying the price for either other men's behaviors or false memories of your w.
Either way, not your responsibility and very unfair to you and your family.
At some point she has to see the marriage as a partnership and not simply co-parenting. What does the DB coach say?
Does your w think it's okay for you to date OWs or she thinks a celibate marriage is fine forever for both of you? I'm curious.
Sorry her reason for going back into the bed wasn't what we hoped. But like I said, she didn't say she'd NEVER feel okay with affection. OTOH,
would it be so wrong to ask her if she's fighting those possible feelings?
Keep us posted.
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