I've identified a couple of issues that I am trying to address specifically. Control and Fear (which I believe is an outgrowth from my control issues).
Denver,
I want to suggest, your control issues stem from fear first.
Then additional fears result when you feel like you are not in control.
I heard somewhere once that "fear is the root of all evil".
While I can't remember where and that drives me nuts...
I do believe that it is true.
Fear leads to anger...
Fear leads to sadness...
Fear leads to regret...
Fear leads to extreme cautiousness...
Fear leads to bad behavior...
Fear leads to attempting to control situations so you don't feel the fear...
Fear will hold us back from our biggest dreams...
And so on...
Think about it.
Thanks Cat. I actually mixed that up in my rambling, stream of consciousness, post. Yes, my control issue probably comes from some fear issues that I have.
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