Positively moving forward

[ClingingToHope]

Pictures ... tough one. I post everything I take on my Facebook page and tag D12. So XW can see the shots that way. XW gave me the official school photos of both the past two years.

If I was paying though to have a "family" photo of just me and the girls, I wouldn't give it to XW. She wouldn't put it up anyway. She doesn't have a single thing of me anywhere in the house. She even replaced my photos with ones of her two drunk uncles who drained her grandmother dry.

I wouldn't ask S why they were late. Isn't that getting him involved? As he gets older, he'll figure out he's passing info. If it's important ask him directly.

I never ask the girls about XW at all -- if I have, it slips my mind. Part of it is to not put them in the middle and the other part is that I want to keep working on not caring. I used to shoot them down when they volunteer stuff, but that was bad so now I let them talk and then try to change the subject.

That's a tough balancing act.