I have been following your situation since pretty close to day 1. I am under the impression your H has an enormous amount of junk, a lot of baggage. There's probably some of this you don't even know about.
I don't think he's done, even if he is with OW. Even if you're relagated to being plan B, at least right NOW.
Applaud yourself for what you've done. Your H is taking the hard road. He is trying to do it all yourself. You have taken great steps to resolve your issues. You are seeing a IC. You are on this message board. You are working on yourself.
IMO your H could use some help on his journey, but he has to come to that realization independently.
