Yeah I get confused too. One day she'll be totally excited, the next not so. I know she is dealing with a lot of conflicting feelings. My W had always claimed bi too but it wasn't an issue until our m started hitting the rocks.
I've tried to wrestle with the issue of why women now after all these years. I've come up with a couple of theories none necessarily more true than the others.
1. This is her version of an EA/PA. Like many WAW's there's a certain thrill in the chase. If I give her time it may fizzle out, or maybe never even come to fruition.
2. This is an integral part of who she is, and we work out a way in which this makes both our sex lives together and apart better.
3. This is more of a bicurious thing, which may go away once the curiosity is satisfied, or she realizes she is not THAT curious.
4. She discovers she's just gay, this would be the hardest since I think we both realize how much we care for each other.
I don't know it's hard to say. All I know is that it's out of my hands for now. She needs to discover what she wants and then I need to decide if and how I want to be a part of it.
