Positively moving forward

[awest1217]

S is getting his pictures taken today. I always do them a month early so it is during summer vacation. I am wondering, should I still offer XH some pictures? The last three times we have been separated and I did, but now I feel that I shouldn't pay for them all and XH get half automatically. I thought maybe just giving him one wallet and one 5x7 at most then his mom's bday is the end of the month so I will put one in her card. (I still have S pick out a card for XH's family's bdays so he has something to give and to teach him to give). What do you guys think?

A couple of other funny things. XH asked to have S Sunday into Monday last week instead of Saturday into Sunday. I said ok. He says he will drop off at 7. then texts me Monday to change it to 8 at the latest and ultimately doesn't drop off until 8:20. It upset me some, but I got over it. My more mad part is somehow the mailing address for the mortgage was changed to his parent's address where his mail goes although he doesn't live there. He says he didn't change it, and the company has no record of it being changed so who knows, but makes me wonder.

Anyway the funny part was when S gets home Monday I ask him why they were late. He says we were at the K store. I didn't know what store so he ISP explaining it to me (XH told me they were just going out to eat and might be late because of that with nothing about extra errands). I finally figure out which store and S is excited I figured it out, the grocery store down the street. He says yeah we had to drop OW off. I just smiled and laughed to myself. To drop off OW a quarter of a mile away so I don't see her and find out they are always together. It just makes me laugh.

XH no longer texts me at all or responds to texts like when I told him we were home from church so he could get S or when I ask an important question, maybe once a month. He doesn't ask about S in-between visits or anything, which I am good with. I like having my own life and it bothers me when they intertwine more than with S like the mortgage papers going to him instead of me. I am over him and it really feels good. Not that I am completely over the hurt and anger, but I am over him and just wish he wouldn't continue to "hide" stuff, but not my problem. I am still working on not showing anger when S tells me he did something with XH that XH should have talked to me about first out of respect and courtesy, but I am getting better at it and it is bothering me less and less, which is stressing S out less and he isn't acting out as much, but this last time wasn't two overnights in a row and he was dropped off at home so out of normal. If S acts out next week, XH asked to switch weekends, I will just keep helping him calm down and maybe figure out a different routine to help him more.

All is really good!