She may be fishing to see if there is any chance you'd forgive her.
I think that was her indirect way of saying she wants to come back. I think you handled it well. The guilt must be killing her, she can't forgive herself and is punishing herself, of course in typical WAW style you are the victim. It also could be that her guilt is so intense that she doesn't want to deal with the hard work that it will take to make things right so she is taking the easy way out and pushing the D.
I think for now, you have to keep the whole I understand you want to leave, and you can. Although I don't want you too.
If she does, I think she wants you to take a stronger role in the m. She probably wants you to set boundaries, and to establish control. I know mine did, she wanted me to stand up more for myself in the m. The irony was that I saw myself as a loving compromising husband. (it's weird but in a way I think your w wants to atone for her sins).
She worries you may never forgive her, yet at the same time wants you to be strong enough so that she can never stray again.
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