Well, I did go to a friends house for one night and that got him to want to work on us. He is possitive now on us rebuilding our marriage. He missed me and was jeolous that I might have been out with a man and it was killing him. I am just not sure I can forgive. I know that our fighting, my clinging and my complaining had a lot to do with his running away from our problems but he still did not have to go to the extreme of allowing this to happen again. He got to the point that he was so mad at me and resentfull of me that he just wanted her. She made him feel good and forget all else. I am worried that it was not just infatuation though. Most of me feels like she was just that, a tempory fix to a bad time for him. But what if it was more? I want to be the true love not the default because she decided to stay with her husband. That is my only naging doubt...