X- would an "I told you so" about MC be too much of jerk. just kidding.
Jack - Geez forget one word and you have a lot of questions for me. the word BTW was "other" as in other DBers. You've seen enough of my posts to know my typing isn't exactly world-class.
Back to the "Progress Report" - I used this in a way that was help. It wasn't so much to record "baby steps." Because, that's not how I saw them. In fact the actions were all over the map and it was when I was solidly in piecing. I would never call them baby steps because they weren't. They were done to remind myself of the ways my W was trying. X said that he didn't see an actions from the W. Maybe there were actions, but he glossed them over or forgot. Maybe there weren't. The "report" was a way to remind myself of those actions. Like I said, I almost never went back to read them. It wasn't never meant to be seen as anything other than what they were for the moment. (Okay maybe when we ML, I kinda read into THAT).
They also performed another vital function. In a lot of the books, I've read about marriage there seems to be one theme. (among many) that is you have to have a positive view of your spouse. These items in the report helped cultivate those positive thoughts.
I kinda brushed off the criticism. However, since I am NOT in piecing now. I don't do them anymore. No need. My W does a pretty good job of telling me exactly where we are.
Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet. --Jean Jacques Rousseau.
