OMW - Weirdness, for the last month we seem to have struck the same point in our spouse's peeking out of the craziness. I will add, for perspective, that I think part of this "I don't know" is the guilt and fear. Guilt over what she has done. Fear about putting everyone through it again or being wrong that it could work and then feeling stuck. You're right that she has to see it and believe it for herself. Don't shove her too far away, as you GAL. She's on a teeter totter. Time and patience will help you so much. Good luck!
Faith is, at one and the same time, absolutely necessary and altogether impossible. --Stanislaw Lem
