Your hope can come from believing in yourself. Belive that you can become the man you want to be. If that man is the same one who can draw her back into the MR, then wonderful. However, if the new man you become is a man you really respect and even like....then isn't that what you would seek?
If I had not been through some of this mess myself, and know that it is possible....I wouldn't waste my time. But I know it is possible. I know she can have love restored in her heart. It can happen! You have to let up on the pressure before both of you have a heart attack.
Try to do like the folks at AA, and just get through a day at a time without having a R talk. Okay? ((hugs))
((((BIG HUGS))))
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
