it's like she just wants to talk to me to make sure "I'm ok" but then at the same time, keep on doing as she has been
I think this is a good observation. This also makes her feel that if you’re ok, she’s ok.
Now you being strong and “OK” is good. But what you don’t want to convey is that you are “OK with her decisions and actions.” This is what she really wants to hear.
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Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.
