Is filing for D a 180?

[luvmyhubby]

I knew it wouldnt last long.. I should brand the way I feel today into my head.. Why do I allow my boundaries to be crossed over and over again? It is like I am just welcoming his button pushing with a big red arrow pointed to me....

He was supposed to take our kids to their activities last night. When I arrived home he was there with them asleep on the couch and the kids were running around. He didnt feel well so i finally offered to take the kids and he agreed. He said he was going to go home and sleep.. Well I checked the computer after I got home pretty late and bam.. I discovered that he had been blowing what little $ he has at the bar and going out to eat. This from a man who claims to not afford gas or groceries etc. The amounts werent small either they were large enough for two people to be going for drinks and dinner...
Then I noticed that he had also looked up movies for that night to go see.

so he is blowing money while not having enough to pay me for our bills. Then he lies about not feeling well so he can go to the movies on his night with the kids.. I was infuriated!

This just proves I need to stop allowing him so much slack and put concrete boundaries up. I made him tell me today a day of the week to get the kids. The same day every week not just whichever day he choses at random and then changes later.

Now I know he is still lying to me and nothing has changed. He was being nice after I implemented my first boundaries so I have to keep him at arms length.

I still wonder if seeing him every day isnt causing me more stress. he comes to get the kids every morning which will end soon for school so that will help me.