Nope, dropping rope is not exactly in the book. But dropping rope means detachment. So thats in the book.

True. Detachment does not mean we should stop being loving people. It just means that we should emotionally simmer down when it comes to our sitches and spouses.

Ex : Earlier in the sitch whenever W took out daughter to the park, store etc and she would tell me: inside i would go crazy because all thoughts of our past life as 3 of us came rushing by. Same thing whenever i saw an old reminder in the house.

It is better now. I dont have those emotions rushing by. I could be wrong, but i guess this is detachment.

BITS
M 38
W 36
D 7
Married 15 yrs
W left for 6 months in 2009
W Filed for D 01/03/11
piecing now...