Compassion for a MLCer

[broken5150]

Hi all,

For a change, I would like to do something OTHER than vent about how hard I have it with my current MLC wife. Recently, when we DO make contact, I see little attempts for her to be a little nicer than what she has been the within last 9 months. Her venom spewing, partying and what I like to call "Alien Activity" is becoming less and less...

When I see her, It looks like shes had an emotional beating. At first glance, I feel allot of anger but as we communicate and I see her condition, it breaks my heart but I just dont show it. I cant find it within myself to give up on her. I just dont see her, I see the big picture which is my family.


God willing, if and when she does want to return, I look forward to the very difficult task of piecing back our marriage. The way I look at it, at that time, we would of gone through the worst part of this whole thing.

Just like others here on this forum, I pray for her daily despite of the misery she is putting me through. I try to focus on the person she was, not the person she is now. Granted, I know the person she was might NEVER come back, however, I know that when I married her, it was for the long run.

I received one heck of a pep talk from a pastor in my church. He told me that I have grown and shown a tremendous amount of faith and strength during this very tough season and that I could of handled it all in a different way (drugs, violence, revenge etc.) but I chose different path. The path of God and the choice to rise above a tough situation and grow.

During our journey of a LBS, its sometimes difficult to see the changes that we are making because we are so engulfed in our situation that we sometimes forget to stop and look at ourselves and appreciate who we are becoming. I really look forward to putting all of my changes to work on the rebirth of my marriage.

Im loving her more every day!

BTW, do guys know of any threads that I can read about an MLCers experience during their turmoil?

Have a great one!