"I think your approach you are taking is great and I truly wish I can get to "where you are" sooner."
I guess I'm deliberately being as stoic as I can be. The simple truth is that I understand "if you love her, set her free". Trying to live under the same roof wasn't working. Trying to fix her, or the marriage, wasn't working. Trying to show her the error of her ways wasn't working.
Only when I accepted the fact that she had to move out and find herself was I able to breathe more easily and relax. I think we have a small chance of reconciling, but it's only a small one. She still does not feel the love that a wife should have for her husband. All I can do is give her the space and time she wants, and strive to be better than the man she once fell in love with.
If she sees something in me that captures her, that would be wonderful. But I won't hang my hat on hopes and maybes.
H 56 W 48 D27,S21 SS25 SS22 Severely autistic M(#2 for both) 9 1/2 yrs. "I've never loved you" 3/7/2011 Separated 8/7/2011 BITS