Must be something in the air. last night my W was in a "funk," "really tired," and hated what her life had become. You think I said anything.

I have use the one-mile-at-a-time approach to running.

I'm curious X, what else are you doing with your "free" time now. Is there anything you can do to take some of the focus on your and your M?

Sorry the invite didn't go well. At least she was honest, so that is something. I hope your MC will help steer you both in that direction (or at least your W). I mean at some point you will have to start hanging out w/o kids.

You are just moving very, very slow. But you are moving forward. You do have the strength X. I know you do.

I used to do something that helped me a lot. On my phone, on the note section. I had something I called "Progress report." I used to write down any postive that happened in our M no matter how small, it was like 2-5 a day. Stuff like "Called me and was friendly" "Said I looked nice." etc.

I was promptly blasted for this by the DBers, but it gave me something concrete too look at. Honestly, I didn't really go back and read it, but the act of writing something positive was positive.

food for thought.

Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet.
--Jean Jacques Rousseau.