Hey Val, not sure if you posted it in your thread here... but I noticed you posted elsewhere that you found a hickey on your stbx's neck... so sorry to hear that...

Just something I noticed in your post above, how your stbx is putting blame back on you when you express feeling victimized... pretty classic stuff...

Stay grounded and never forget that YOU KNOW your own experiences... whatever the "truth" might be... your experiences... your feelings... they are YOURS and the represent YOUR TRUTH... they are not right nor wrong, good or bad...