Your only other option, and I DO NOT recommend this NOR encourage it... just putting it out there... just as food for thought...
What if YOU were suddenly in a rush to D? What do you think your W might think or do if suddenly, you not only responded VERY QUICKLY to requests, but went further and asked her to hurry up the process as you want D final as soon as possible... perhaps by a specific date...
That is said strictly for... entertainment purposes... allow yourself to consider her perspective... once she's D... what's her plan? Maybe she THINKS she has a plan, but once she gets her "win"... she might be VERY lost because her purpose in life right now is to D so once she has that in hand... ????
My lawyer friend (I've known him before he went over to the dark side) actually suggested this to me. He said it would: 1. Help restore some control on my behalf in this crisis 2. Make her start having to think more actively about the huge ball of crap that accompanies a divorce
I just think she'd be pleased about this but don't know for sure. I would have trouble facing my kids knowing that I had filed. Both have behavorial difficulties and this thing, should it come to be, will be very hard on them.
Me: 45 W: 45 S: 12 D: 9 M: 16 T:22
Bomb: 4/20/2011 Says she moves out in July with Kids Discovered Affair: 6/10/2011 She files for divorce: 8/18/2011
