Good for you for going to Al Alon and reading up on these things.
Here's the thing. The changes you make have to be for you. They have to be things that you feel warranted changing or he is going to see right through them.
You should start by looking at any part you played in problems in your marriage, but be careful not to take any of his parts.
Use that info as a starting off point in becoming the person you want to be.
Then look at those things that he felt were problems and determine if they are valid.
It is also helpful to look at people you admire.
Armed with this information, decide what changes you want to make in yourself, for yourself. That is very important.
You have a wonderful opportunity here. You can become the person you were meant to be.
Each day, strive to be that person. Some days you make it, some you dont, but, that should always be the goal.
