Well, this weekend was an interesting one. My w decided to disappoint the kids after promising to go and see them on sunday at my moms. My D7 called her multiple times and she didnt answer. Monday, i picked up D7 and took her to my MILs bf place for a girls day in hopes that it would pick up her spirits.
As soon as D got in the car, she asked me to take her to her moms home. I did and she went and knocked on the door. No answer, now the OM jeep was in the lane way, the tv was on and visible through the window, so my daughter started kicking the door until her mom answered. Her mom then decided to come to MIL's with daughter.
An hour drive without a word between us. D7 asked why she didt visit and W started talking about something on the side of the road to change the subject. At that point, i said nothing to her the entire way.
Today, i got a text, "is having me worth all the aggrivation between us?" i did not answer her for about 6hours. I called her with my reply. I told her at this stage it wasnt about her and me. It was about her and her children. I wanted her to reconnect with her children and fix those relationships. That is why i made that offer to her. I also told her that i had been diagnosed with cancer and that was a big factor in why i was trying to get her home with her kids. I told her there was nothing else i could give her to make her choice to come home any easier. I was nice, acted happy, drove her to and from OM house for her visits, opened my home to her. I never yelled or treated her badly. I had nothing else to give.
I also told her that if she was not going to be a constant in the kids life, she needed to stay away. This dropping in every 2 weeks and making promises and not keeping them was hurting our children. My job is to protect those kids, and i will seek legal action for sole custody if she continued.
She was silent through that entire conversation, i asked her if she had anything to say or any questions she wanted to ask, she replied not now so i said goodbye, the kids had soccer tonight and i hung up.
What more can i do for this women? She needs to figure out what she wants in life and act. I have done everything i can, its time to focus on my health and my kids.
I finalized all of my legal issues regarding my will and living will this weekend and all my finances are in order now. So if something does happen, my kids future is protected at least financially.
