Feels Like I'm In Two-a-Days

[MadeToSucceed]

Telemark, I feel pretty confident that my efforts have all been made in love and honesty and not with anger, deceit or dishonesty. I've done everything I can to handle this is the best way possible and have even put her own feelings in front of mine through the majority of this.

Having a rough night...finished up my paper and all I have left for school this summer is my exam tomorrow night. Then I get a 3 week break before the fall semester begins on August 25th.

I've been thinking a lot about the legality of things here lately. My lawyer is aware of the adultery and sent me some interrogatories that she wants me to review. In them, there are two questions that as my W to list anyone she has had sexual intercourse with since we've been married and anyone she suspects me of doing the same.

I'm struggling with whether or not I should allow my lawyer to ask these questions if, in the end, my long term goal is STILL reconciliation. When thinking about what my DB coach has said, does this get you closer to or further from your goal, a big part of me thinks it gets me further because my W will try to use this as a reason that I am "all about money." I really don't know how to approach this one to be honest. My lawyer knows I want R and yet that is impossible without my W wanting the same so if all her actions are pointing to D, then do I go along with it from the standpoint of "I have to protect myself" and in doing so, have my lawyer ask those questions? I know that no one has the answer to this but I guess this is just me downloading into my thread as a means to avoid reaching out to her.