Starsky, Country Strong Agree 100% I have actually gotten better at ignoring most of her outbursts. In fact I think that was the turning point in this odyssey, this has caused them to be rarer and less intense. At the height of the WAWness she was having 2 to 3 a day. Now it happens 2 to 3 times a month. I myself have my relapses too and rush in too early sometimes.
The uglier things get the more I try to tell myself to detach.
YAH It makes me sad to know one of my main mentors will be gone for a month. Nonetheless I hope it's a good vacation.
As for your suggestions, all have already being discussed in one form or another. She has two main issues 1. She is too self conscious to be watched even if by me.(she is also afraid of my reaction to see her actively get shared) 2. She doesn't think that at this point she is ready to see me get shared. (she's not sure she can handle actually seeing me with another woman).
Bottomline this is her journey and not mine, and she's expressed that multiple times. As said before it's her way of doing damage control. Even the strip club experience which I at first thought was good, was not so much as she harbors some resentment that I got to play with the opposite sex.
If anything were to happen together it would be after she feels secure with her sexuality as bi, and feels comfortable knowing that we can both have partners outside the marriage together and/or separately without any issues. I think she doesn't want me involved in case she realizes she doesn't want women. As I said before it would be too messy and hard to start a clean slate if she has to wonder if I liked the threesomes too much to be able to close the marriage.
At one point a few months ago she said she was worried about experimenting because she was afraid we could never go back to closed if we decided that's what we wanted. She felt once I got the taste for open I'd never want to go back.
A lot of her rules make sense when put into this context.
