" I am not got got to preach, or say what you should have done, IMHO you have always done what you think is best for your own individual situation, and whilst that hadn't always been the db way, It has been your way....so respect to that......" GAL MAN
i agree with him, absolutely!
i think you surely need to modify dbing to your own situation
you are the only one who truly knows your wife
i feel your pain, my friend
you are not alone, and you know there is a better day and a better nights sleep ahead