My feelings are changing...sitch isn't

[Queen_of_Swords]

Tad, I realised the other day. That in trying to make STBX "see" things in a realitic way I was in fact:

a) increasing his feelings of guilt
b) increasing his feelings of being blamed
c) NOT succeeding in making him sense or even in the same way I do.
d) increasing the emotional distance between us.

You can't make a crazy person see they're crazy, and we can't do a freaking thing to make our spouses see sense.
To them we're nuts, we're the bad guys.
The best thing you can do is become emotionally healthy so in the event when they do have a lightbulb moment you are capable of seeing it and allowing them to move closer...if by that time you still want them, crazy and all.